If He Goes, Then I Go

I was recently extremely intrigued by the "If He Goes, I Go" attitude that some people give me when I invite them to do something together (group activity). Usually, it's all right if one or two people does it. But when 5 people does it, it'll definitely wreak havoc.

Here's what happened to me:

I asked A-E if they wanna do something together. Then the "If He Goes, I Go" cycle when A says that he'll go if B goes. Then B goes on to say if C goes, I'll go. Ultimately, basically everyone will depend on the last person (E) to decide on whether to go. Then, one fine day, E decides that he'll not go because of something that he has to do. So, here's what will happen:

If E doesn't go, D doesn't go
If D doesn't go, C doesn't go
If C doesn't go, B doesn't go
If B doesn't go, A doesn't go

This usually ends up with everyone not going. Personally, I don't mind it if they each have their valid reasons for going. But when I get lame excuses for not going (and I feel like you're giving me lame excuses), I get a little frustrated. It gets more frustrating when you can't do a group activity simply because people give you lame excuses and you don't have enough people to do the group activity. PLAN CANCELLED

The thing that I don't like about this attitude is when I have the question of "Can't you decide yourself?" in my head. Then, the next question will automatically come "If E eats shit, you wanna eat shit?".

All of us are born and brought up differently. Hence, past experiences and core principles in life will definitely be different. There will be times when people have different interests and such. But when people want to do the same things with their friends simply because their friends are doing so, then I think they're making a very big mistake.

To quote Steve Jobs from Apple Inc. : "Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life". Cheers ^.^